Its Done

This Blog has Officially Moved to its new home ..

Took me a few long nights .. But i am glad i did it ..

New Blog Address: http://www.timberdawolf.com

This seems to be the end of the road for blogger.com so i won't be posting here anymore

Feedback is welcome

Cheers
Timber

Unspoken Words...

People walk in and out of our lifes all the time ... some over it .. some under it

Its definitely not a good habit to keep your expressions and reactions towards them capped ... For good or for the worse when words need to flow they need to flow ... for you own sanity and honesty to others ..

But then they are times i have learnt some words are best left unsaid ... it could be an expression of simple gratitude or dislike.. no matter how simple they sound people have just got into a habit to demand a reason.. don't blame them for it after all its not a world which will let you hold on to your innocence for long ....

Every word or action expressed doesn't need a reason .. Accept some of them .. for what they are ... and there would be one less facet of complexity to our daily life's ...

No one has all the answers ... and never will .. but we all do have our ways ... this is mine

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

My Description - Unknown

Being a man of very few words often best described by others

i ask people to describe me... Most who make an attempt go on and on for ever finally concluding i am complicated.... While for some i had to have a helmet handy else they would just beat me down silly ...

Then i asked this lost and confused soul to describe me and boy was i in for a surprise...
i was described as stated below

"A well read keen observer hiding behind the façade of a strange calmness,
that one could, after considerable probing, unearth the bizarre side of."

It is impossible for a man to learn what he thinks he already knows isn't it ? that thought hasn't rung my bell in a while...

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

its my birthday

Its my birthday and i have been in a suspended state of happiness with myself :)

A message i completely endorse .. watch the full video



Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Dawn..

Listen to the Exhortation of the Dawn!
Look to this Day!
For it is Life, the very Life of Life.
In its brief course lie all the
Verities and Realities of your Existence.
The Bliss of Growth,
The Glory of Action,
The Splendor of Beauty;
For Yesterday is but a Dream,
And To-morrow is only a Vision;
But To-day well lived makes
Every Yesterday a Dream of Happiness,
And every Tomorrow a Vision of Hope.
Look well therefore to this Day!
Such is the Salutation of the Dawn!

-Kalidasa

Catching yourself in a moment...

its something i have always heard about ... Never really tried it until last night

Life at times seems to give one the notion that you are seated on a see saw.. i dunno about most but i remember from my child hood.. the feeling me being tossed high up in the air was simply the best .. Similar is life with its highs and lows ..and nothing beats a high :)

As the music played and drinks poured in and around my table ... without realization i spaced my self out where i could only hear the voice in my head and the music play .. i stayed in that zone for a good 15 mins till a friend realized i was not saying anything and tapped me on my head asking me what happened .... and i really didn't know what happened .. maybe i caught myself in the moment .. a moment in which i was at a high on my way down ... me catching myself in the moment helped me stay high till about 8 am this morning ... i know tomorrow is a new day and i don't know whats in store ... maybe its one of those trips to the dumps... but i'll take it in my stride .. everyone knows when life is in the dumps .. but cherishing the high is a different feel all together ...

For those 15 mins last night .. Everything seemed fine .. as if there was never a problem and never will be ever ...

Problems maybe at the end of the day are a self conceived notion ....

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Opinions

We meet new people every day of our life's ... Often it doesn't take more then one meeting to form an opinion about someone... Not that it matters who forms what opinion about myself .. but it does matter what i form about someone.. For the most part i refrain from forming an opinion about someone .. But eventually with time when i do .. i try my best to see the good qualities and ignore the rest as long as it doesn't harm my soul...

Everyone is special in their own sweet way.. and deserve respect .. For the most part 5 out 10 individuals will surprise you with the hidden qualities they poses.... which often we tend to ignore post are initial opinions ..

i have burnt my hands more often then i have gained dear friends by opting for this route but when i weigh what i have gained over the years against the number of scars which were left behind .. its a small price to pay for having people who watch my back...

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

As we grow up

An interesting forward that hit me on facebook

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.

Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin!

Its been a while..

its been a while since i broke that glass with my fist ...10 years to be precise ... i came very close to shattering it again but some thing held me back .. don't yet know what it was maybe it was the wisdom i gathered over the past 10 years ...

Someone once told me he wished he could use my head with the 54 years of wisdom he had .. it did'nt quite hit me back then but tonight it did...

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

So how does it feel to be a Jackass ?

Its not everyday that you realize what a jackass you are in matters of the heart with close friends and loved ones...

It started 2 weeks back at the hard rock cafe when i was out hanging out with a few friends ... and a very dear friend passed a statement about me.... mentioned in all good intention and taken in the right spirit by me .. Struck a cord with me .. i happened to ask him the next day when i was sober and he told me maybe he didn't use the right words but i knew what he meant ...

Considering the connection i share with him i got a rough idea about the matter ... I gave it a thought realized it but did nothing about it ... until this evening when it was hammered into my head by a chain of events which i never imagined in my wildest dreams would occur ... maybe i should have seen it coming ..

What those events where are little too personal for me to disclose

On my way back home i was putting things together .. a few questions arose in my mind, i called up another friend and asked her ... Although i knew it would push her off the edge.. Its just something i had to get in the clear ..
i got my answers but yet they didn't seem convincing enough...

Took me a couple of weeks of pondering around with my thoughts and conversations with some friends to come to a conclusion

Love is blind.... Friendship tries not to notice...

The Rational behind calling someone a close friend or a loved one is when you let your guard down around them..
and share n care a little more then the average

Events are likely to occur with them just as they would with a normal person with who you may have your guard up against...and there is not much one can do besides take it with a pinch of salt...

In Love or in Friendship being a jackass is but natural ... i have been one for a while and will continue to be for the rest of my life ... choosing not to do so would lead my soul into solitude ... and solitude is a temporary asylum which can never last a lifetime ...

Peace
Timder Da Wolf

Defy Logic...

Sometimes you just wish if you didn't know things the way they were .....

Someone once said everything that glitters is not gold ... its so true when i look back at people who brushed pass my life over the years .. No matter how cautious i am about selecting people who surround me ... i too make mistakes all the time... its one of those unfortunate perks of being a animal that evolves with time ..

There are times when confidence in a human doesn't know when to put a lid on that mouth ... In reality words that defy logic are non existent ..in philosophy there are a dime and a dozen..

if you are true to yourself and the world around you ... its a funny sight to see people trip over their own traps ...
Keeps me amused....

Want to catch a lie ... see if an explanation is given out without a question being raised .. and if that explanation defies logic ...i am not saying will always .. but works for the most part .. Leave the emotions aside and enjoy the show ;)


Peace
Timber Da Wolf

This Morning ....

Finally managed to get myself out of bed this morning ... Maybe the weather had something to do with my laziness....

But it didn't take long for the routine to kick in ...

Brushed

Walked into the kitchen saw the cup of tea ready ... Popped it into the microwave and got got down checking my phone and emails .. Got to google news ... browsed thru the happenings as i lit up one and sipped on my chai ..

Had the urge to lite another one up but i know she would kill me if i did that ... walked upto the closet and put on my jacket ... walked upto the fire escape as i pulled up the blinds and raised the window a cool breeze blew my way .... i closed my eyes and just let it blow threw me ... as i opened my eyes ... i felt like the energizer bunny :)

Nature maybe does have its effect on me ... as i climbed outside the window and sat on the fire esacape .. the usually visible manhatten skyline dissappered under the cloud cover ... asif it never exisited .... Felt like maybe another world existed beyond those clouds .. a world i could relate to for a while ...and maybe can in many ways till date ...

i don't know if the past 6 months in mumbai was a dream or the years i spent in new york prior to the move back to mumbai ... or these past 3 weeks in new york ..

As much as i would like things to be different around me in alot of areas ... Sometimes one needs to accept and embrace reality no matter how much the bitch bites ...

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Another Forward...

A interesting story that hit my mailbox a few weeks ago ..

Little girl and her father were crossing a bridge.

The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter,
"Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river."

The little girl said,
"No, Dad. You hold my hand."

"What's the difference?"
Asked the puzzled father.

"There's a big difference,"
replied the little girl.

"If I hold your hand and something happens to me,
chances are that I may let your hand go.

But if you hold my hand,
I know for sure that no matter what happens,
you will never let my hand go."

In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond.

So hold the hand of the person who loves you,
rather than expecting them to hold yours...

Walls We Build..

The past couple of weeks have been interesting in some ways... i could see a bunch of my intuitions come true
What those intuitions were is a different story all together ...

A few months back i had put down a few thoughts on the human defense mechanism... Since then not much has changed i still see people putting up new walls around them and taking down some if not all old walls .. i do that too a times but try and make sure it need not apply to people who may be close to me or people i am just getting to know ..

Why ? well the answer is simple

The chances of two people sharing the same tastes in all aspects of life are slim to none.. i am sure everyone agrees to this ... its not a perfect world

Similarly every individuals action, reaction , words , thoughts in a particular situation or towards a person may also vary ...

One lays down walls based on their experiences in life ... perfectly normal human nature ...

But keeping in mind the uniqueness of every individual doesn't it make it a little unfair to make all people climb walls that were created by no contribution of their own ...

Does that make one Selfish ? or Plain Foolish ? i do not know

But i do know alot of good things fade away till they actually get across these walls .. Life always is a path made up of an individuals choices ...

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Head Vs Heart

Warren Buffet Once Said :

"Should you find yourself in a chronically leaking boat, energy devoted to changing vessels is likely to be more productive than energy devoted to patching leaks."

A rather crude principle to apply to your personal life... But if you ask me honestly sometimes using your head over the heart is the only logical move unless one has suicidal tendencies..

Our Hearts definitely do have a role to play in our lives... But application need not be in all areas or situations...

Each one of us fights this internal battle everyday of our lives.. Where the thoughts that form a decision or an action tend to flow from two distinct sources. Finding the right mix leading to an end result is a rather complex process which may vary based on individual personality or ever volatile human nature.

its a very rare sight that i see a well balanced decision or an action taken by myself or people around me.. After all human stupidity knows no bounds :)

For years i tired to find the right balance but i either manged to get ahead of myself with my head or behind myself with my heart..

Sure i made mistakes ... But with every mistake i picked up the pieces and learnt some painful lessons..... strive for the balance don't expect it ... expectations sometimes can make one wait a lifetime...

Leading a life using ones head all the time ... Usually lands one up in a singled out self centered world of your own.

Leading a life using ones heart all the time ... Usually lands one up down in the dungeons somewhere with plenty of rose petals showered around you.

Maybe just applying one flow of thoughts to a particular area or situation seems the way to go ...

My heart tells me .. Umm i crave a smoke ...

My head tells me .. smoking kills son ..

i'll take my chances with my head this time ...

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

A Fair Deal

Sure you would get a steal in the next sale hitting the retail chains around your city ... But the thought ever struck you.....Its a tough world if one is looking for a fair deal in life...

Why is it tough or getting tougher as the years pass by.. i have been asking myself that question for a few weeks now .. a rather unusual thought which can be overcome with the simple application of ignorance .. but somehow this is one aspect which i cannot ignore as it has a direct co-relation to the people who define my life...

Last night i put on my thinking hat on... Thinking about friends , family , business associates and loved ones...

So what are my chances of finding a fair deal with the groups outlined above ?

Honestly the chances are slim to none to expect a fair deal with all groups...

So Where could find a fair deal ?.. The answer really lies within me ...

It depends on how good of a judge i am of the individuals who form these groups and my actions which may increase or decrease my distance from them.

One can't control an another individuals outlook or priorities in life... which may or may not be a constant with the passing of time.. But one can definitely keep ones eyes open and see the color of the sky for what it is ... Not for what it was or will be ..

Why the sky ? Well ask 10 random people "what is the color of the sky ?" at night and maybe you will have your answers...

Choices we make or made set the stage for the deals we get out of life....

Ignorance we apply also sets a stage for the deals we get out of life ...

So are you getting a fair deal ? Food for Thought .. ;)

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Priorites n Relations

This has been a long month for me ... i guess i am getting stuck in the day to day rat race again...
Leaves me alot less time to ponder around with my thoughts :)

Maybe this is life's way of saying this is all you need to know now my friend ... and all your unanswered questions will come with age.. Well guess i will have to wait ...

i was driving back after short visit to a friends engagement ... had nothing better to do so picked up an old buddy and ended up at a movie. Post the movie we were just chilling and driving around the city ... around 3 am i finally decided to get my ass back home and hit the sack .. the drive back was a pleasure one finger on the steering and a foot on the accelerator ... wish everyday was like this ...

A strange thought popped into my head ..

i was looking at the priorities i had set in life for myself .. so far everything seemed to be well in control.

Family, Career, Friends, Relationships

Over the years i have done a healthy switch between these area's when needed and will keep doing so till the end of my time .. its a switch i firmly believe one needs to do in order to keep the show going

However never in my life except a casual relation a year back ...have i managed to give a relation the right priority .. either its overrated or completely underrated .. The only case where i could give it a healthy balance was where i had drawn an invisible line to hold back my emotions...

So why is it that in relations we give people priority when you are only an option to them ? and why is it that people give you priority when their are only an option to you ?

Something doesn't fit here .. i look around at the people i know and its not only me .. But i don't know anyone who has been able to give it the right balance ..

Maybe its just one of many facets of human nature ... Maybe its a mystery i will never have answers to.. Or maybe this is just the way it was meant to be...

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Interest paid on trouble ....

"Worry is interest paid on trouble before its due" I am not sure where that line caught my eye.. But it has left an ever lasting imprint on my outlook...

For the longest time that i can remember i have had a care free approach to issues or situations which may be of grave concern (Very Bad Habit...) ... Not all of them have gone my way ... But them some battles are lost even before you start fighting them.. Over the years life has taught me to distinguish between things which you can help and things which you cannot...

Does worry help in resolving an issue or bailing one out of a troubled situation ?

Then why stress oneself ? and lose sleep or precious time over it

Its human nature ... i don't blame most to worry about things .. after all we do live in a world that pressurizes us from all sides....

Apply your efforts to situations or issues which you can help.. and Hope for a resolution... don't expect one

With time you will learn whats worth a fight and whats not..

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

After the Thrill of Living...

Life is what goes on... After the thrill of living is gone ...

Why is it a Thrill ? Well look back at your life and i am sure you will find your answers :)

Everything thats bought to life in this world .. Eventually gives in to death some day or the other
And with time a life filled with shared moments dissolves into a faded memory ... Of someone who once was...

Does life with the winds of change and its countless mysteries thrust us forward.. Well maybe it does
But then sometimes an individuals will does stand firm ground ..

6 AM and i hear the cell phone ring ... "Its Done" i am told ...

Life goes on .. and will keep going on long after we all are gone ...

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

A Feeling like none other.....

Everyone has goals ... Some set them earlier then most ...

Late Last night as i walked back home around 4 am. i stopped for a moment and looked up to the heavens.. With a light mist in my eyes i said "Thank You".... when i woke up this morning .. i woke up with a smile.. don't remember the last time that happened ....

Being the inquisitive type .. i couldn't stop but question this feeling which felt like none other....
A Big "Why ?" haunted me for hours together... was it the alcohol or the kick ass party ...or was it just something i wanted so bad for a long long time ...

I went and stood at my balcony lit up a smoke ... and looked back at my life for answers... when i reached a point 6 years from today i had set some goals ..... i was way over the deadline i had set for them....it was a little over ambitious now that i look back at it but i worked my ass of to meet them..... Aim for the stars and maybe you will reach the moon...

Things haven't quite gone the way i had planned in my personal or professional life ... Both have had a few big jerks in the past 6 years ... But for some strange reason i kept going without letting those factors influence me much ... maybe i really did want to reach those goals really bad ...

6 years can be a really long time to be set out to reach something one wanted ... a tiering feeling can grasp one as easy as the common cold ... in june 2007 such a feeling hit me and i just paused my life for 6 months and took a sabbatical to explore myself and the life i had lived for the past 26 years... what i learnt from these 6 months have been blissful and the end result = to a better and a smarter me ... walking whats left of the journey ahead .

Even though i took a sabbatical for 6 months and put my life on a pause.. the thrust i had put into things over the past 6 years finally rolled the cart over the finish line .. and i did not realize it till this moment ... but i had reached what i had set out to do ... and things only looked brighter from here on to set new goals .. which i have set today ... one i am confident of achieving the second .. well i could fail at .. but hey lets give it a shot ..

If one wants something really bad ... and Puts in the required effort.. it will come someday ...

As much as i would like to depend on luck .... to achieve my second goal .. its just a factor i don't bank on too much ... if one is not enough without it ... one will never be enough with it ...

we all just need some believing ...

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Finding and Keeping a Life Partner..

A very interesting forward i came across a few weeks back

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no
one wants to make a mistake.

Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are
making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married,
they'll say: "We're in love";

I believe this is the ..1 mistake people make when they date.

Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may
sound "not politically correct", there's a profound truth here.

Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result
of a good marriage . When the other ingredients are right, then the
love will come.

Let me say it again: "You can't build a lifetime relationship on love
alone"; You need a lot more!!!

Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about
finding and keeping a life partner :-

QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose?

Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married
for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone.


What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and
jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful.


You need a common life purpose.

Two things can happen in a marriage: (1) You can grow together, or
(2)you can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart.

To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life!

Bottom line; marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship.

Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The
basis of having good communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won't
get "punished"; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and
feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone
with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be
honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally
safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION ..3: Is he/she a mensch?

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you
test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a
regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher
of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be
good and do the right ";. So ask about your significant other: What do
they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a
materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character
refinement.

There are essentially two types of people in the world:

(1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and

(2) people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in
life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the
right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION ..4: How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the
ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person
pleasure.

Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they
wrapped up in themselves and self- absorbed?

To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people
whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi
drivers, etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they
have gratitude and appreciation?

If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them
everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that
someone, who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as
well.

QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person
after we're married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the
intention of trying to "improve"; them after they're married.



As a colleague of mine puts it: "You can probably expect someone to
change after marriage for the worse" If you cannot fully accept this
person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.

The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with
your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are
dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key
issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with
a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself trouble because
you didn't do your homework.

Another perspective. ..

There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a
distance.. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or
at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible,
not-going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around
you.

Pay attention... Which ones lift and which ones lean?

Which ones encourage and which ones discourage?

Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill?

When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse?

Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know, or
appreciate you?

The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and
truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who
gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of
your life.

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes
open, and after you marry, close one eye"; Before you get involved and
make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity,
ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to
warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you
can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that
important.




Do you bring out the best in each other?

Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete,
compare and control?

What do you bring to the relationship?

Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?

You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make
someone love you or make someone stay.

If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life"; you
won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness
or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are
the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS:

1. TRUST

2. COMMUNICATION

3. INTIMACY

4. A SENSE OF HUMOR

5. SHARING TASKS

6. SOME GETAWAY TIME WITHOUT BUSINESS OR CHILDREN

7. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes, etc.)

8. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS

9. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE

10. GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF
COMMITMENT

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as
resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will
replace.