Saturday, October 20, 2007

Relations...

I came across a beautiful email about relations .. Thought I'd put it up

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is
broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to
suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity
may result in separation.

A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call.
She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She
repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to
cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB.
Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know
whose number it is."

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if
the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".


NO POINTING FINGERS

A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a
successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for
her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind
that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a
better husband than you."

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are
afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he
would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is
the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one
finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.


CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?

A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and
requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a
suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh,
good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in
singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home
during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting
stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I
want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I
understand you need television."

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a
blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the
faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of
the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and
dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the
excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage
is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.


NO OVERPOWERING

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,
or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will
conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after
marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying
which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or
a river than a person's character."

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing
the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..


RIGHT SPEECH

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech
will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off
because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,
we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything
without considering if it would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site.
A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, "Hi, Emily! Remember
me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her
millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you
will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered,"You should
appreciate that you married me. Other wise, he will be the millionaire
and not you."

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad
relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.


Dreams float on an impatient world

Ever since i got back to mumbai ... i have had plenty of time to watch life in and around me with a fine eye.

I see new dreams go up all around me and i see dreams turning into expectations or obsessions. I see dreams go bust and dreams getting fulfilled.

People Float new dreams at every juncture of life. What i never see is patience and perseverance.. Very seldom have i come across an individual who is a dreamer but yet
is constrained by reality of life.

Dreams float on an impatient world

Peace
TimberDaWolf


Monday, October 15, 2007

Wisdom does not come with age ...

With Age Comes Experience ...
With Experience comes Realization...
If realizations are are put to thought ....comes wisdom

Thus with age comes wisdom is untrue :)

I have met a number of people in life young and old, smart and dumb for some strange reason i still don't know why i can't seem to underwrite anyone.

i am fascinated with the idea of understanding human nature and what better way then to look around into people around you.

i am not sure which juncture of my life i came to this conclusion but it has been a blissful realization. Everyone knows "You Live.. You Learn" Life teaches every one lessons.

But did it ever occur to you if you pay a little extra attention to conversations you may have with people or by observing people in situations and their actions .. You might actually learn something life taught them

its food for thought .. For the past 10 years i have been speaking to a man at least once every few weeks. Every Conversation i have with him i seem to derive something useful.. i feel blessed to learn something from someone in 10 years what may have taken that man 55 years to realize...

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Thursday, October 11, 2007

Stay Hungry.... Stay Foolish.... - Steve Jobs

This is the text of the Commencement address by Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, delivered on June 12, 2005.

I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I've ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That's it. No big deal. Just three stories.

The first story is about connecting the dots.

I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?

It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: "We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?" They said: "Of course." My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.

And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents' savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn't see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn't interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.

It wasn't all romantic. I didn't have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends' rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:

Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn't have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can't capture, and I found it fascinating.

None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, its likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.

Again, you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

My second story is about love and loss.

I was lucky — I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation — the Macintosh — a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.

I really didn't know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down - that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me — I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.

I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.

During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple's current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.

I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.

My third story is about death.

When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn't even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor's code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you'd have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.

I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I'm fine now.

This was the closest I've been to facing death, and I hope its the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960's, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.

Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: "Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish." It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you.

Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.

Thank you all very much.

Wednesday, October 10, 2007

Stop every once in a while ...

A day passes by .. so does a week .. so does a month ... followed by a year

Little do we realize time is ticking by .. irrespective of what we are doing or what state of mind are we in.

Your Happy ..Time will tick .. Your sad .. Time will still tick... Your Confused ...Time definitely still tick

Considering you spend half your life sleeping ... that just leaves another half to be sad , happy or confused

Wouldn't one want to be happy for the most part if it was a perfect world ?

Well atleast i would for the most i can ...

The Only issue is people are so overwhelmed with emotions driven by their surrounding environment ..And get so caught up in their day to day life... They hardly get a chance to take a breather n step out of the box for a while to look at their lifes from a brids eye view..

Life is though and its difficult to get yourself out of the daily routine

Well You have Problems so do 5 Billion other people ...

But do stop every once in a while ... N seek the path to happiness ..

Life is too short to be confused .. n too precious to be sad

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Monday, October 8, 2007

Value has a Value only if its Value is Valued ...

An interesting story that i came across

A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a Rupee 500 note.
In the room of 200, he asked, "Who would like this Rupee 500 note?"
Hands started going up. He said, "I am going to give this note to one of you but first let me do this." He proceeded to crumple the note up.

He then asked, "Who still wants it?"
Still the hands were up in the air. Well," he replied, "What if I do this?" And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now all crumpled and dirty. "Now who still wants it?"
Still the hands went into the air.
"My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson.
No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did
not decrease in value. It was still worth Rupee 500/-.
Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way.
We feel as though we are worthless.
But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value.

You are special. Don't ever forget it! Never let yesterday's disappointments overshadow tomorrow's dreams.

"Character" an individuals safest bet ?

After 26 yrs of my life ...and Number of serious and casual relations i came to a realization which never struck me before.. An individuals Character is the safest long term bet you can have on them ...

I was heading back home from work and a old college buddy gave me a buzz .. Did'nt have anything better to do so figured i would catch up with him.

Sitting at a bar he was blowing his horns about casually dating a married woman at work.. I was not surprised but to bust his chops i just asked him...

Me : Hey How old are you now ?
Him : 25 Yrs
Me: Cool so i am sure you would be married in a few years .. have anything on your cards ?
Him : Maybe in a few years
Me : Hey you know there maybe a remote possibility a few years down the line when your married. You could have 2 Single guys sitting in this bar and discussing your wife ... lol
Him : STOP Don't you dare say another word on that ... i'll find myself a decent girl
Me : Ah
Me : So looks like it maybe arranged
Him : I guess it could be ...
Me : Hmmm...
Me: So a thought just occurred to me so your saying the current married chic you are dating is not a decent chic hence you are going out with her to have a good time .. But you would only marry a decent chic ?
Him : Correct
Me: Being the smart ass i am :) " Hey so is there a remote possibility that the decent chic you decide to marry suddenly has the realization that she has not explored life and decides to change her approach post you guys get married"

He Looked at me stunned.. With No answer

Me: So either ways you are screwd ;)

Anyways we ended that conversation ... i lit up a smoke .. as i took the first puff ...
It hit me maybe character of an individual is the safest long term bet

There is a Chinese saying " Its easier to change the course of a river or the shape of a mountain .. Then to change and Individuals Character... "

Individuals Change with time and keep changing till the end of their time ... There is no known constant from birth to death ..

Food for thought ?

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans


A Interesting thought .... By someone with wisdom derived over the years



It's been 18 years since I joined Volvo, a Swedish company. Working for them
has proven to be an interesting experience. Any project here takes 2 years
to be finalized, even if the idea is simple and brilliant. It's a rule.

Globalize processes have caused in us (all over the world) a general sense
of searching for immediate results. Therefore, we have come to posses a need
to see immediate results. This contrasts greatly with the slow movements of
the Swedish. They, on the other hand, debate, debate, debate, hold x
quantity of meetings and work with a slowdown scheme. At the end, this
always yields better results.

Said in another words:
1. Sweden is about the size of San Pablo, a state in Brazil.

2. Sweden has 2 million inhabitants.

3. Stockholm, has 500,000 people.

4. Volvo,Escania, Ericsson, Electrolux, Nokia are some of its renowned
companies.
Volvo supplies the NASA.

The first time I was in Sweden, one of my colleagues picked me up at the
hotel every morning. It was September, bit cold and snowy. We would arrive
early at the company and he would park far away from the entrance (2000
employees drive their car to work). The first day, I didn't say anything,
either the second or third. One morning I asked, "Do you have a fixed
parking space? I've noticed we park far from the entrance even when there
are no other cars in the lot." To which he replied, "Since we're here early
we'll have time to walk, and whoever gets in late will be late and need a
place closer to the door. Don't you think?
Imagine my face.

Nowadays, there's a movement in Europe name Slow Food. This movement
establishes that people should eat and drink slowly, with enough time to
taste their food, spend time with the family, friends, without rushing. Slow
Food is against its counterpart: the spirit of Fast Food and what it stands
for as a lifestyle. Slow Food is the basis for a bigger movement called Slow
Europe, as mentioned by Business Week.

Basically, the movement questions the sense of "hurry" and "craziness"
generated by globalization, fueled by the desire of "having in quantity"
(life status) versus "having with quality", "life quality" or the "quality
of being". French people, even though they work 35 hours per week, are more
productive than Americans or British.

Germans have established 28.8 hour workweeks and have seen their
productivity been driven up by 20%. This slow attitude has brought forth the
US's attention, pupils of the fast and the "do it now!" This no-rush
attitude doesn't represent doing less or having a lower productivity. It
means working and doing things with greater quality, productivity,
perfection, with attention to detail and less stress. It means
reestablishing family values, friends, free and leisure time. Taking the
"now", present and concrete, versus the "global", undefined and anonymous.
It means taking humans' essential values, the simplicity of living.

It stands for a less coercive work environment, more happy, lighter and more
productive where humans enjoy doing what they know best how to do. It's time
to stop and think on how companies need to develop serious quality with
no-rush that will increase productivity and the quality of products and
services, without losing the essence of spirit.

In the movie, Scent of a Woman, there's a scene where Al Pacino asks a girl
to dance and she replies, "I can't, my boyfriend will be here any minute
now". To which Al responds, "A life is lived in an instant". Then they dance
to a tango.

Many of us live our lives running behind time, but we only reach it when we
die of a heart attack or in a car accident rushing to be on time. Others are
so anxious of living the future that they forget to live the present, which
is the only time that truly exists. We all have equal time throughout the
world. No one has more or less.

The difference lies in how each one of us does with our time. We need to
live each moment. As John Lennon said, "Life is what happens to you while
you're busy making other plans".

A mind is like a parachute ?

A mind is like a parachute.... It only works when its open :)

Give it a thought that line has a deep meaning behind it which can transform your life...

The day that line came to my notice a couple of years back .... it intrigued me. i looked back at all the decisions i made in life
good or bad and came to a conclusion if maybe i looked at it with an open mind the outcome would be very different and i would be maybe in a different place ...anyways since i can't turn back time till some one with plenty of grey cells invents the time machine there is no point me regretting anything i did ... But i could adapt an open mind policy to make the best of life going ahead.

To my surprise i was alot more content with my decisions. So Content that never in life post that i needed to give a second look.

Individuals often make their decisions based on their experiences in life or perspective towards issues or maybe even a relation shared with an other individual ... At a point in my life i did too But ....

Doesn't that really cloud what one maybe looking at ? And influence them to sway in a direction which they shouldn't ?

An approach with an open mind really does change your life...


Peace
Timber Da Wolf