The E Factor

Albert Einstein Once Said

"I do not believe in the immortality of the individual, and I consider ethics to be an exclusively human concern without any superhuman authority behind it."

Ethics or the "E" Factor as i like to call it .. is unique in every individual. There is no real guidelines around which an individual lays the grounds for Ethics he or she follows..

The Foundation of an Individuals ethics is generally laid by his or her family in the early days .. School education and friends in the years follow and finally college and an individuals every changing perception over the years based on experience..

Society as we know it generally showers respect and admiration over an individual for the most part based on his or her deeds or accomplishments..

i don't know if ethics are the driving force behind deeds or accomplishments .. but i do know ethics define a person as a whole ...

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Sails of Expectations

Everyone's in some boat or the other ...Life is the wind... Carrying us along over a sail of Expectations

A father expects from a son .. a son from a father

A Wife from her Husband ... a Husband from a wife

A teacher from a student .. a student from a teacher

Besides our expectations of individuals around us.. There are expectations we have from everything we do or everything that brushes by ones life...

In a world filled with expecations ... it wouldn't surprise me if it was the root cause of sorrow and complications that surround each one of us in our every day life ... But at the same time could be the driving force to bring joy and happiness... when fulfilled

Can't live with it ... Can't Live without it ... :)

I meet people everyday some new ... some i have known since donkey's years.. Each one of them is different in their own special way ... But yet their bar of expectations is set way up there with the stars .. sometimes its difficult to gauge how far up it goes ... Only if we all came a notch down and say set our expectations till the moon ... Wouldn't it make everyone's life alot easier ..and maybe less complicated

if i could ... i would ... if i can't .. hey thats all the apples i carry in my basket :)

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Ignorance...

A fools means to live everyday life ...

A blessing in disguise if used in appropriate situations or junctures of life ...

Such is Ignorance...

Thankfully i have been blessed to differentiate between the two. There are no finite boundaries to Human Stupidity and ignorance for the most part acts as a catalyst. Have come across many such specimens in my lifetime and sometimes i fall short of words to describe such individuals... But none the less besides observing the application of ignorance in their everyday life ... i may have missed their individual special qualities....

Call it My ignorance ? Sure

When one applies ignorance in everyday life ... I don't know about most .. But i'd term them a fool Even if you do know the particular individuals special qualities... at the end of the day it won't change the fact that the individual is a fool ... Not being judgmental here... But i do believe time is a valuable asset in a life that passes us by the second

So far i have come across tons of individuals ... Some i have come to like .. Some i have come to dislike... I find it very difficult to carry the weight of hatred towards an individual in my everyday life.. Its baggage that i always leave behind in the pages that write the history of my life ...

Ignorance in this case is bliss

If you don't like anything or anyone ... Don't hate .. Just work your way around it :)

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Do Good

Do all the good you can, by all the means you can, in all the ways you can, in all the places you can, at all the times you can, to all the people you can, as long as ever you can.

- John Wesley

First impression : Do good

After a Thought : It merely asks you to do as much as you can :)

I don't know if one does good.. Does he or she get rewarded by life in any way...But a wise man once told me do good even though there are no rewards ....when a life time filled with good deeds passes you by.. Look back at it... A feeling of self satisfactory contentment shall come by .... and when you close your eyes for the last time a lite heart is a better option then a heavy one..

Made me think .. Dunno about you...


Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Toxic Humanity

A rather crude title to this thought ..... No i don't have a bad taste in my mouth after having a slice of this pie we call life ... Just a realist .. By Nature Its funny but physical violence these days seems to be the basis of all authority... This evening i heard about a shooting in a delhi school ... it doesn't seem to surprise me anymore the human race in general has taken a nose dive right into the pits... This thought has flown by my head every time some one has spoken to be about the holy bible .. the Quran or the books interpreting Nostradamus's predictions ... Besides Nostradamus .. the other books speak briefly of judgment day... But all of them speak about the end of the world... Honestly i have no clue if these prophecies are true . But they do make me think at times ...

Out of all of Nostradamus's predictions which were deciphered by people over the years. The one that drew most attention was an indirect pointer towards a reign of terror which would signal the end of the world. Historians related that prediction to Hitlers reign.. But till date no one has every been able to interpret Nostradamus's writings without being contradicted by the words itself ... :)

Vague words are like abstract art.. Everyone can paint a different picture ...
- Timber (Well what do you know ... an Original)

Getting to the bible ...

No i have not read it ... Nor am i Religious ..

But i did brush thru a few pages while i was in vegas..

Why i was reading the bible in hotel room in vegas well thats a different story all together .. :)
i'll get to it later

Curious to try and make sense of the 20 known prophecies which many say the bible points towards.
What are those 20 known prophecies... well its too much to write so let me just point you towards :

http://www.endoftheworldprophecy.com/

Never read the Quran ... But i do remember while i was in bangalore for a year ... a friend of my brother interpreting the pages that mentioned about "Qayamat" (Judgment Day) in Urdu ..

So what is this obsession with the human race to seek its end in ancient writings ? i have no clue what so ever
Although an intriguing topic to explore .. But i much rather spend my time thinking how to live .. rather then how to die ... But its a strange world and there are no curbs on where the human imagination takes us..

I walk out of the same door every day .. into the city day in and day out. Every nook and corner i see so much filth .. the kind that puts the word humanity to shame.. The way our race is going i'll be surprised if 5 generations down the line an 18 year old would have an attention span more then a nano second :)

It was funny this evening riding in that rickshaw headed out to santacruz to pick up my ride .. An Ambulance passed us by .. suddenly i see the rickshaw honking and trying to tail it.. we cut thru the traffic. As i got down of the rick i asked the guy .. did you know you were chasing death ? Someone was dieing in there .. At least don' t try and take that to your advantage... He looked at me and said considering the street traffic he wouldn't mind using someones misery to his advantage.. i smiled at him and walked away ..

As i crossed the street a thought struck me ... The End of the world doesn't necessarily mean there has to be death and destruction all around us.. Maybe its just a silent end that will get the better of us in the near future


Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Best of both worlds

Everyone knows the grass is green on the other side ... Yea well its green on both sides its just that we tend to oversee the lush patch we stand on ...

Most people i know wish they had the best both both worlds .. i wished the same for a long time until recently

Its funny ordeal the past three years while i was in new york i wished i was back home in mumbai. Playing with my dog... getting wet in the rains .. hanging out with old buddies .. The NY Rat race got to my nerves . its a world too material for me to live in ...I had some great times there .. Made some great friends and have a bag full of memories i'd cherish for the rest of my life... But something was missing..

About 9 Months back i got offered a transfer back home.. Felt like i hit the jack pot. 3 months in mumbai and 1 in new york.. get paid the same amount. i figured i'd move back and get a feel of mumbai again.. if it works out i'd stay back for good if not i'd pack my bags and move back to NY.

At first everything seemed fun ... canceled my lease .. gifted out my media center .. and furniture .. packed my bags and got home.. took me a few months to settle down back here with stuff ..with the constant traveling .. Work was rather chilled out .. Only took a few hours of my time. Considering my professional background it was childs play..Met tons of old friends had some great times ... Ah home cooked food finally .. But something was missing ....

Why ? Well i had the best of both worlds ..Have everything i have ever wanted ..well not everything but almost everything besides a good woman ... and a Enzo :)

Women anyways never a concern ... always been in and out of relations .. really long relations now that i look back at them ..

But an Enzo i want :) Anyways getting my wandering thoughts to ground zero

i took a sabbatical for a few months from work n things around in general to figure out .. Even delayed my long due trip to ny...what was really missing..

Couldn't figure it out

I am headed back to NY in jan for a month and i am dieing to get there ... its winter yipeee ... boy i miss the snow and the sub way rush .. the morning coffee from the deli ... and the sandwiches shane made for me every morning ... Ummm um ummm

So what was really missing ... Heart ? Well Maybe ... Maybe Not .. if you ask me i couldn't get my heart anywhere but a snow covered peak near a lake ... with a nice log cabin .. Maybe i am pushing my luck too much :)

I already have the best of both worlds and now i am putting my heart in a 3rd one ...

The path to seek more then you have is a never ending journey ...Each one of us walks that path every second of our lives ..

The path maybe never ending .. but our lives have to end at some juncture ..some earlier then most ... its difficult to find contentment and stick to it for a long time .. Envy .. Well thats just a part of humanity ... One is always looking at the other and wishing

The bottom line is ... You can always keep craving for what you don't have ... But one definitely needs to find contentment in what he or she holds... Even if you had the best of both worlds .. Human nature is such that it would always create a 3rd one ..

At the end of the day .. Life is nothing but a journey and we the travelers... seeking a destination which has no known constant bearing with time .......and never will till the end of our time..

This is your life now ... Make the best of it ...

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Respect..

"Respect" Ah well that word has really amused me a lot since i got a hold of my life ...

Its a given in most cases... With respecting an individual for who he or she maybe ... or an individual no matter how high or low maybe in standings set by society ..

The funny thing is very few earn it ... But yet all of us demand it..

Why ?

Well i have no clue ...

I have seen that word... Displace People in Love .. Distance Family & Friends ...or Simply complicate peoples life's beyond redemption...

Only if we as individuals realized .. Respect Only matters if one respects his or herself ... Some Respect may or may not be given to you by society and the people around you .. and rest you earn with time for your deeds ...

Even if one didn't earn any or was not conferred upon by society ... How does it matter anyways ?

Keep it simple and the rest will fall into place ...


Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Knowing the Unknown ...

A few days back while having a conversation with a friend. She gave me a brilliant idea to write about...

Its something i have followed over the years and in most cases it helps me read individuals ... You can never know the whole truth.. but one can get an idea of whats coming your way ..

I am not sure how many believe in positive and negative vibes... Its as obvious as a bad or good oder if one chooses to keep his or her senses on high alert.. It can be a tiering affair to keep ones senses active all the time... But then if you want to get to know someone ... It takes an effort...

An Individual expresses in many ways .. The Most obvious ones are Words (Speech) and Actions

But then there are also passive expressions ... Body Language, Eyes and Facial Expressions

Having the gift of gab is a great asset for most.. but then no one is perfect. Sometimes a pair of keen eyes gets the better of the words... Sometimes the Words get the better of Glittering Eyes.. Sometimes the Glittering Eyes Get the better of a heart in love ...

A Rule of the thumb.. Which generally portrays an arrogant and snobbish image of myself. I take a few months sometimes maybe even a year before i form an opinion about anyone... Getting to know someone takes considerable amount of effort sometimes.. i may never form an opinion too at times.. Why ?

Well some mysteries are best left unsolved and some questions are best let unanswered, in other words... reward is not worth the effort :) ...

When you observe someone during multiple encounters... Their Words may flow .. but maybe the eyes or the body language would give in ... Words May Point up north but actions may point down south ...

A Classic Situation "The worlds most commonly spoken lie "i love you"... North South Theory Ring a bell ? :)

The more you talk to an individual and the more you don't pull them up at points when he or she is pulling a fast one on you.. The more they let their guard down ... Making the task of getting to know them a walk in the park..

Sure its stupid to let people pull a fast one on you ... So long as it doesn't hurt or kill you. It only saves you valuable time and energy ...

Its Human nature to take people for granted ... Sometimes being dumb .. is being smart

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Two P's

The Past Two weeks have been rough ... Been pushing my lucky a little too much..
End up drinking with someone or the other. Sticking to my limits though..

A few days back i was on my way to meet up a friend. Got a call from i guy i had not
seen in the past 2 weeks. Heard his mom was diagnosed with cancer 2 weeks back...
And she was in her final stages..

I stalled my plans for the night thought i'd spend some time with him.. I lost someone in my family a few months
back to cancer and have seen what kinda trauma one may go thru .. before finally giving in ..

As our conversations went on after a few drinks.. i could see him vent his frustration about his mom..
They seemed to have discharged her for a few days from the hospital and she ended up doing the household chores
as soon as she got back ... Well knowing quite a few super women in my life including one in my house ...i know how though it can be to reason with them... so i guess his frustration was justified

Its cause one cares and loves.. .. he or she would give into expressing anger when their advise or suggestion is not taken seriously by a loved one in vain ... i have been in that spot tons of times... it was ok for me to give into anger in some situations .. while some situations i wished i could have shown some level of patience. i am not going to get into details here...

Wishes will always be wishes :)

He happened to speak to me about situation where he lost his cool and started screaming at his mom to go relax and not to be difficult...i could see a myst in his eyes... let him vent uninterrupted

Once he was done i wanted to get my point across to him...

Me : When you were 8 yrs old and say you failed a subject in school.. Didn't your mom scream at you ?
Him : Yes
Me: And when you were sick Did she sit by all night around you.. ignoring anything and everything you ever did or were doing wrong ?
Him: Yes
Him: I don't get your point
Me: i'll get my point across to you .. Just give me a minute to explain my thoughts here

Me: When one is a kid.. Parents are pretty much your guardian angles till you come of age.. They love , care , feed and guide you for the better part of your life ... Considering an obvious fact that children can be molded more easily then grown ups.. Their (Parents) effect on you tends to fade away with time .. your surroundings, experiences and perspective takes over .. Finally you reach a stage where your the man you made yourself to be. With some pointers by your folks .. do you agree with me ?

Him: Yes

Me: While all this was happening .. Your Parents were going older ?

Him: Yes

Me: Your parents are already the individuals they have made themselves to be... No matter how you want things to be. You still can only use words. And the best way to use your words is with love and patience... Considering that they are way past that stage of adapting to changes. its you who needs to be wise and adapt to them....Sure i understand that she is doing something wrong ..But when you were 8 didn't she sit by you all night ignoring anything you ever did wrong... And i'd lay a bet she would still do the same when your 25...

My observation over the years and i am pretty convinced about it.. from personal experience

When one is young infant.. He or she is pretty much dependent upon their parents .. But as time passes by one becomes self sufficient .. However a shift happens :)

A child once taken care by a guardian... is now taking care of the guardian who is a child....The older people get ... the more rigid and childish they do get at times. Standing by them like they stood besides you is the only thing one needs to do...

Cause one day a shift will happen again....

Patience is a virtue... We learn to pickup over time. However its worthless if not used in situations with people who mean the most to us...

Peace
TimberDaWolf

Honesty n Self Deception..

"Honesty" a word which is quite often used in the English vocabulary.

"As Wikipedia States"

Its the human quality of communicating and acting truthfully related to truth as a value. This includes listening, and any action in the human repertoire — as well as speaking.

Superficially, honesty means simply stating facts and views as best one truly believes them to be. It includes both honesty to others, and to oneself and about one's own motives and inner reality.

Although a rare quality seen in individuals these days. But yet exists in small pockets..

Has the world lost its bearing ? Well i don't know. The more i see .. The more it seems to convince me humanity is nearing the end of its time.. Let me not loose my bearing now ;)

When i think of "Honesty" Two words seem to hit me "Self Deception".

"As Wikipedia States"

Self-deception is a process of denying or rationalizing away the relevance, significance, or importance of opposing evidence and logical argument.

An instinct for self deception can give a person a selective advantage... if someone can believe their own "lie" (i.e., their presentation that is biased toward their own self interest), the theory goes, they will consequently be better able to persuade others of its "truth."

It may also be argued that the ability to deceive, or self-deceive, is not the selected trait but a by-product of a more primary trait that is selected. Abstract thinking allows many evolutionary advantages such as more flexible, adaptive behaviors and innovation. Since a lie is an abstraction, the mental process of creating a lie can only occur in animals with enough brain complexity to permit abstract thinking.

No i did not conceive that theory.. However its one i have a great deal of respect for....

99.9 percent of people like to call themselves honest ..

But what i fail to understand .... how is one honest when he or she is in self denial ?

Honesty to maintain as a constant on an individuals personality.. is a near impossiblity

Honesty starts with the end of self deception .. It doesn't matter if your honest to a dishonest world

But it does matter if your honest to yourself ...

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Second Chances

Every once in a while i seem to get into a conversation with someone or the other regarding someone screwing them over .. in their personal or professional lives... And often i hear this " Once trust is broken.. it can never be repaired" Well in most cases of professional arrangements i would agree to it....

Personal ... Well not always the case

If you look all around you.. You find people .. People who are different in their own unique way. No two people you know would be 100 % alike. May agree or gel with you, But yet they maintain their individuality..

Individuality so complex and diverse ..i don't know a single person who has it all figured out till date.

Complications of individual personalities is something which i do not wish to explore at the moment its a rather complex subject to discuss with a never ending search to a conclusion..

Human Race ever since it inhabited this earth.... thru countless generations have taken tiny steps towards discovery of everything that stands around us today... and will keep taking those steps till the end of our time

Proving the the obvious fact... Man is a thinking animal ...well at least some of us still are :)

People make mistakes.. Thats how they learn.. Thats how they discover themselves...and everything around them
Thats how they come to terms with their personality and life

And if the obvious fact of "Man being a thinking animal" is true .. Then people who make mistakes learn from their mistakes to make smarter choices in life ahead..

Life as the years pass by has a funny way to teaching people ... thru direct or indirect situations or thru reactions to actions and words of an individual... Some learn.. Some never stop chasing their own tail...and well some just never realize to learn.

Personal Experience 8 out of 10 people who one may give a second chance to will screw you over at some point or the other.... So the odds are high.

But yet there is a faint chance... Someone may learn from their mistakes .. Would you give them a chance ?

I know i would .. a word of caution if you have the patience and the heart for second chances ..

Hope ... Don't have Expectations

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Personal Perception..

An Interesting email i came across

Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be
another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the
way home, a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on
the donkey? "Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the
donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and
commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride
on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife
quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.

Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can
the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey.
Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you
hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing
that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey
and carried it on their shoulders.

It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the
donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell
into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will
everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never
will be in the future.

Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if your conscience is clear..

Who Set the Criteria Or is there one at all ?

I have been meeting tons of friends over the past few months .. Some i have not seen in a decade some a few months and of course the regular entourage..

A few days back i was out with some folks i have not seen in 12 years and we had a blast. Some of them were not that close to me 12 years back. However we acknowledged each other in those days. This meeting was different.. even though we were never that close we seemed to be the best of buddies that night.. There were tons of other people who were hanging out with us and could not relate to our conversations but yet we went on being in a world of our own...it was like we were back in school..

Yes i relived memories that night :) ...

A few weeks back a friend called me up to invite me to his wedding .. i have not even spoken to this guy in years and nor were we that close in college

i have also tried to reach out to some of my closest buddies in school .. And i have not heard back from them

Made tons of friends over the years post school .. some of the relations still stand firm till date .. some faded off with time and some had a bumpy end..

And as the years pass by...good people and friends are hard to come by...

When i look back at time to what i can remember .. and look at where i stand now

Someone who was acquittance a decade back .. seemed to be like a brother from another mother
Someone who was a good friend decade back ... seemed to be like a stranger

Well people grow up ... Priorities change .. Outlook Changes

Understood and Given ...

But where did the innocence go ? i don't recollect being friends with someone cause of the way the look or dress or how deep pockets they had..

Back then it was just so simple ... Who Set the Criteria anyways over the years ? Did you with the influence of life ?

How did one make friends with no criteria ? Filter them 10 years down based on a criteria

A friend of mine said people grow up and know the difference between right and wrong.. Well i give it to him there that may happen in one off cases if there is something at all to judge about an individual

But i still seek an conclusion to my thought .. If anyone has a view i would love to hear about it

Peace
TimberDaWolf

Love, Care n Share

One can get the other high..
One can make the other cry ...
One can make the other smile..
One can make the other shy..

But One can never make the other ... Love, Care or Share

Why ? Well cause the sky is high :)

Its Human nature.....The better one understands it ..
A thought of rationality settles in answering questions as stated above

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Somethings you like to do ... Somethings you have to do...

Somethings you like to do ... Somethings you have to do...

Its a situation everyone of us deals with in everyday life .. Some resist the temptation or desire while some give into the temptation or desire.

i mean sure i would like to get a nice log cabin in the swiss alps ... But then i still have duties towards my family which i need to fulfill

Sure i would like to save a ton for a rainy day and my future .. But then i also want a pimped up ride ....

Sure i want to date that hot chic who keeps asking me out ? But then i also need some substance in an individual ...

Such are the choices in life ... No harm to give in to temptation or desire so long as it doesn't kill you or leave your life in shackles.. Each situation has two choices .. Somethings you like to do .. and Something you have to do

The Difference between "like" and "have" is as wide as logical and illogical or responsible or irresponsible ... its just that the words "like" and "have" are conventional words used in everyday conversations that we as humans tend to forget... The meaning of words can change in context of a sentence...

Realization ?

Maybe ... Maybe not ... Thinking of ending this here ... but my thoughts lead on ...

The day one realizes on what ground he or she stands on ... maybe he or she would be able to navigate thru this mine field with smarter moves and a healthy balance which may not give you a big smile in life ... but would definitely let life pass by with a sense of contentment and end with a sense of self satisfactory achievement.

Why only contentment ? Well as a wise man once thought me to always use a conservative approach in life and so far it works just perfect

The Good Life starts .. When you stop wanting to have a better one

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Innocence at its Best

Innocence is a sight not seen too often... I mean sure it exists in tiny pockets at every corner .. But yet in most cases misses the naked eye. I have never ever seen an individual who has not borne a smile in the presence of innocence..

A Child with his words ...
A Dog with his forever glittering eyes..

I was out this evening getting my bike washed .. considering that i have not been riding it too often due to a bad back.. it was getting pretty dusty

As i stood there on a street corner smoking a cigarette.. My wandering eyes caught a sight of innocence at its best. I just could not stop smiling

i saw a small pup ... playing with his mother right near the highway (Freeway).. As he would jump around to bite his mom .. bark and try and chase his tail.. Little did he know a few wrong moves and he could very well be under the tires of a car .. But yet without realizing what danger was around him .. he seemed to have a jolly time..

if your lucky maybe sometimes in a lifetime will you come across innocence in its most pure form .. Observe .. Learn and Cherish those memories ..For it teaches one a valuable lesson " The Goodness of Life"

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Look within yourself ..

Creativity is a gift given to many of us... To embrace it or no is solely a choice of an individual.. Each one of us has a special gift. Discovery of ones soul leads to the discovery of ones true talent ... I am not sure how many of you would agree with my thoughts. But its strong belief which stands unless proven otherwise by a like minded individual..

Some of us discover these talents .. Some of us are just so caught up with the day to day outside world.. That we forget a smaller world which exists in ones heart needs some attention too...

Look within yourself .. You might see a color never seen before .. Or maybe a scene almost as majestic as the swiss alps at the dawn of spring ... Maybe a smile which puts the monalisa to shame ... Possiblites seem to be almost limitless

Its a colorful world filled with black and white souls ... Add some radiance to yours like many have .. and maybe you have a chance to stand out like a rainbow does on a rain filled sunny day..

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Time we have left .... put into perspective

Out of all my crazy thoughts this one by far is the most scariest or at least gets one thinking ...

I remember sitting across the table with a friend of mine talking about how time flew by and now that he is 30 and i am 26 ... Half our lifes have almost passed us by...

He Said " I want to call it quits by the time i am 60.. don't wanna live post that"
it triggered a thought in my mind ... thought i'd bust his chops

Me: So your 30 ... You think you have another 30 years left to live your life ...
Him : Yes
Me: Ah... "with a evil smile"
Me: hey did this thought every occur to you that 30 years flew by so quick cause you were sleeping for 15 out of the 30
and you would do the same for the remainder 30.. So technically .. you only have 15 years left to live
Him: Looking at me stunned he said " You got me thinking there buddy .. its a scary thought.. Just when i was thinking i have enough time to live my life"

Never told him this ... but it was a scary thought for me too which i happened to put off as a joke ..

Think about it ... i know i did that night

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Life is Nothing but a Symphony

The word "symphony" derived from the Greek word "Συμφωνία", meaning "sounding together".

Life is nothing but a symphony .. A Musical Composition One plays Composer to...till the end of their time

The world around you is your Orchestra and your Audience ...

So Play on Player ....and the world will swing to your tune ..

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Sucess Begins with a Start

A Long time ago i started ... I didn't know which direction my life was heading but to my luck things worked out just fine....

I was out for a meeting at The Grand Maratha. Was supposed to clear some doubts a team member had and was attempting to retaining a co-worker.. As i cleared his doubts and a lighter conversation took over. He asked me so whats going on with arculex....

Arculex is a platform i am working on which would bring a very unique business model to the indian market.. However its still on the drawing board i have been too lazy to get the initial concept drafts outs.

I told him i was working on it and i would get it to him soon.. Then he told me something which made my head tinker ... "Success Begins with a Start"

i gave him a smile and said "soon"

As i sat there having random conversations.. Sipping on some wine i began thinking .. The only reason i am where i am today is cause i started working towards it ... success followed after countless hours of burning the mid night oil.. So success indeed does begin with a start

My advise to my friends who were starting off in their careers and were in a state of confusion has always been .. At Least Start you never know how many doors open down the line after you open the first one..

Was this something i forgot down the years ? Maybe i did ....

To win or lose a Toss .. One needs to Flip a coin first and then Choose..Similarly to succeed or to fail in anything one does in his lifetime... One needs to start somewhere

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Forgive n Forget

My memories as i get older are getting a little hazy about my childhood and school days. Thought i would remember my childhood days till the end of time... After all a human mind can only store so much ...

I studied in a convent school.. As LS as people call such schools these days.. I still feel it gives one experience with the general population that helps you be street smart as one grows up...

I don't remember the days but we had two classes every week of "Morals" ... Yes "Morals"

No one ever took it serious .. it was a class we looked forward to as we did not need to study for it ... Algebra can get to your nerves and Geometry can drive you nuts .. But Morals well it was a class i was at peace with .. I don't remember much of the morals i was taught but i do remember this chapter which Preached to "Forgive and Forget" Keep no hatred or thought of revenge in your heart for it will only deviate you from the goodness of life ..

Well over the years as a grew up for some strange reason i could never forget those words ... its almost as if they left a ever lasting impression on my outlook.. An Impression that till date stands firm

And if you do give it a thought .. Those words are so true ...

People will do hurtful or bad things to or for you... And there is no count to how many times this may occur at every junction of your life ... If you were to hold a grudge and keep it in your heart against them .. How many would you be able to store without showing a stain on your soul ?

I don''t know if heaven or hell exists
I don't know if a judgment day exists after death
i don't know if people pay the dues for the sins they commit in this life or the other

But i do know a individual is known by his or her deeds ... Reasons behind the deeds hold no water

When one comes to a blissful understanding in life that you and you alone are responsible for your actions, words and deeds in life maybe it might help you be a better human being ...

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Humanity too Self Centered

Sleepless night once again .. I had a nap this evening and that means one more night gone by ... With my eyes wide open ...

Its funny i was sitting in my balcony n smoking... Suddenly i saw a news flash on CNN IBN. Monkeys a serious problem attacking people in delhi.. i remember a few months back someone was attacked by a monkey and fell off his balcony ..As i was watching the news report.. i started cracking up. I saw this lady screaming her lungs out asking the government to seek the central governments help to catch monkeys ... lmao

A monkey Attack killed a man .. it Made the news..

Humans on the other hand have driven entire population of certain animals across to extinction.. Tigers are killed for their skin .. Rihnos for their horns .. Elephants for their tusks ..

And yet a freak accident of nature makes the news ...

What we don't realize is we don't own this planet. We just rent it with all other animals and if we could be a little more considerate about animals around us. Maybe it would be one step in the right direction to make this a better world ..


Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Living in the Past ..

I was away from home for a long time ... And now that i am back home. New York Feels a world away ...I met some very interesting people had some great times ..

Every once in a while i would have a few drinks with a friend of mine.. Some one i lived with for a while too

I am a good listener i dunno how true is but many people say so .. And knowing myself a lil over the past 26 yrs i do know people can stretch my patience to extreme limits and get away with it

So anyways .. Every time we would have a few drinks this guy would go on and on about his times while he was in south africa. The Prestige he carried, The Power he commanded and the Life he once lived. Its was ok a couple of times listing to the same stories, Everyone has the right to cherish old memories

As months passed by ... So did years.. I Kept listening to the same tales time and time again. Every time he narrated the story i saw a light myst in his eyes and a depth in his emotions that expressed his craving for the life he left behind once....

I never had the courage to tell him. Always felt my blunt words would be a little to harsh....
So i kept giving him a patient ear for the longest of times... If you can help one feel a little light and better why not ? Goodwill although may go unnoticed but never goes unrewarded in life ..

As i look backed at my conversations with him one night before i was going to bed .. I came to a conclusion he was living his present ... In his past ..

You may have been the prince of Babylon once upon a time.. But this is your life now .. Deal with it.... It doesn't get better it doesn't get worse unless you choose to make it so

Look back at life for answers from experiences
Look back at life to cherish the good times

Don't Look back and Live in a time gone by ....

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

A Common Oversight ...

Ah boy i wish i could have some decent sleep tonight. After a hard day doing chores at home ... Cooking .. Cleaning ... Walking my dog .. i am still not tired

Its funny its been years since i have been home alone. The last time i was home alone my house was a beer bar and a public make out joint but that was 5 yrs back ... Things have moved for me since then quite a bit. Just didn't feel like inviting people over .. would much rather spend time at home all by myself

As i tried to go to bed tonight a strange thought struck me .. Am i missing something ? Or have taken something for granted .. Wandering thoughts it struck me ...

You know what with all the hustle and bustle in day to day life.. One Tends to take their loved ones around for granted.. Its not intended but most of us tend to do it. Not Once do we look around us and thank and appreciate the people around us. Your Parents for bringing you up ... Your Siblings for being there for you when you need them the most ... Your loved ones for being supportive and considerate in times of need..

Think about it ... Ones Parents usually bug you to death about taking care .. i know my mom does. She hates me smoke and my regular diet

i never had a chance to say goodbye to my dad .. My last meet with him was'nt too pleasant either
He very well knew he did not have much time... But yet not once did he call me back home while i was in new york. Was that a sacrifice or was that a fathers love to ensure my success ?

Everyone you stand around one day will go ... You may go before them .. Who Knows ???

Appreciate the people you hold bonds with.... For they Deserve it the most.. More then anything you are doing now or ever will....

"Thanks Pa.. I miss you"

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

its simple to be happy but its difficult to be simple

Once i was a child ... And life was so simple It started with the morning sun and the school bus run... Day's used to be all fun ..With no worries of life's turns Once i was a child... And Life was so Much Fun Not much of a poet heh .. But i try ;) I was talking to a friend of mine the other day and she happened to mention to me " its simple to be happy but its difficult to be simple" That line caught my attention .. i paused for a moment and gave it a thought. Its Said life is a Circle .. But when i put this line into perspective i came to a conclusion that life is actually an oval and we just spread ourselves over it

We Start off in life with a very small patch to cover ... From the Age of 1-12 all we seem to worry about is Toys, School, Home Work and Play.... As Time Passes by and adolescence hits you between 13 and 16 tend to spread yourself a little bit more to cover love and your interests in the opposite sex.... From 16 - 21 You get done with school and then you hit college spread yourself a little more to make room for love n friends along your ambitions towards your future... From 22 till 26 you spread yourself a little more towards your work and your wants in life which seem to be never ending ...as the years fly by...

Being 26 i hear this quite often from friends .." Life is a drag" "I am Spread too Thin"

Before i go any further the above time line is not based on my evolution so far .. Its my Generalized Opinion :)
Yes not an open book yet in many ways

Anyways well my Advice to all my friends has always been ... Of course your spreading yourself too thin.. your Human after all one can only do so much .. Compromises have to be made since ..You do have 1 more area to spread upon in the coming years before you start unwinding your life

Between 26 and 46 All you are doing is spreading yourself a little more to settle down and have kids.... And spread yourself even more with work to full fill wants of yourself and your family ...

Well Between 21 to 46 till your wants take shape at every stage of life .. Life is only as complicated as you make it ..

At very junction of life you have questions .. You have tricky situations .. And for the most part people either Ignore them and move on with their baggage or End up like a 2 month old puppy chasing his own tail in their quest for answers..

I have done both ... My Conclusion was

Some Questions are best left unanswered and some mysteries (Women) ;) are best left unsolved

Some Situations you can help ... So move your lazy ass and address it ..
Some Situations you cannot do anything about as its not in your control ... So stand the test of time ..

Worry is interest paid on trouble before its due ...

Strive for self improvement and the betterment for others around you .. Perfection is an Illusion ..

Try the above and maybe your life in those years has a chance to be a lil less complicated... Hey don't look at me for answers i am lost too :)

When One Gets to 46 ... i assume ..One Winds down anyways ...Kids get married .. You get old and Weak.. All that stretching in life leaves with wrinkles all around your body.. Yes even your ass won't be spared .. So stare at it now all that you want .. lmao

This is a famous chinese question.

A philosopher once dreamed of being a butterfly and then woke up. And he asked himself, am I a man in a butterfly's dream or was I a butterfly in a man's dream.

Who Gives a damm ... its a Dream

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Shift Happens...

Shit happens in Life ... So Does a Shift

An Individual once a Boy is now a man ...
A Man once Poor is now Rich ....
A Soul Who was in Love is now Out of it ..

Such is Life .. A Shift Happens

Give in a Little or Stand to Lose it All ... Hope you get my drift

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Life Marches Ahead ...

Someone may touch your heart and feel your soul like none other ... but yet one may let go of em if one doesn't feel right.

Life Marches Ahead ... Irrespective of your feelings. One needs to march with it :)

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Dream on Dreamer..

I accidentally bumped into a blog of a beautiful yet very hurt soul.. She writes well.. Very well Indeed. Read something which intrigued me

This isn't me...

"Silent, eye contact..In a crowd Giving what the other needs Layers of the sea Flowing from one to the other Fear of the extreme Transition expects more Claim all that is yours Leaving impressions on her hands Permanent Scars..Enhancing the demarking lines Lines of destiny..Debts still to be paid,Guess the time will come.."

Dream on Dreamer .... Dream On..

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Relations...

I came across a beautiful email about relations .. Thought I'd put it up

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is
broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to
suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity
may result in separation.

A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call.
She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She
repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to
cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB.
Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know
whose number it is."

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if
the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".

NO POINTING FINGERS

A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a
successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for
her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind
that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a
better husband than you."

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are
afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he
would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is
the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one
finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.


CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?

A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and
requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a
suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh,
good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in
singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home
during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting
stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I
want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I
understand you need television."

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a
blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the
faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of
the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and
dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the
excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage
is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.


NO OVERPOWERING

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,
or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will
conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after
marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying
which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or
a river than a person's character."

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing
the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..


RIGHT SPEECH

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech
will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off
because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,
we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything
without considering if it would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site.
A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, "Hi, Emily! Remember
me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her
millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you
will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered,"You should
appreciate that you married me. Other wise, he will be the millionaire
and not you."

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad
relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.

Dreams float on an impatient world

Ever since i got back to mumbai ... i have had plenty of time to watch life in and around me with a fine eye.

I see new dreams go up all around me and i see dreams turning into expectations or obsessions. I see dreams go bust and dreams getting fulfilled.

People Float new dreams at every juncture of life. What i never see is patience and perseverance.. Very seldom have i come across an individual who is a dreamer but yet
is constrained by reality of life.

Dreams float on an impatient world

Peace
TimberDaWolf

Wisdom does not come with age ...

With Age Comes Experience ...
With Experience comes Realization...
If realizations are are put to thought ....comes wisdom

Thus with age comes wisdom is untrue :)

I have met a number of people in life young and old, smart and dumb for some strange reason i still don't know why i can't seem to underwrite anyone.

i am fascinated with the idea of understanding human nature and what better way then to look around into people around you.

i am not sure which juncture of my life i came to this conclusion but it has been a blissful realization. Everyone knows "You Live.. You Learn" Life teaches every one lessons.

But did it ever occur to you if you pay a little extra attention to conversations you may have with people or by observing people in situations and their actions .. You might actually learn something life taught them

its food for thought .. For the past 10 years i have been speaking to a man at least once every few weeks. Every Conversation i have with him i seem to derive something useful.. i feel blessed to learn something from someone in 10 years what may have taken that man 55 years to realize...

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Stay Hungry.... Stay Foolish.... - Steve Jobs

This is the text of the Commencement address by Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, delivered on June 12, 2005.

I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I've ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That's it. No big deal. Just three stories.

The first story is about connecting the dots.

I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?

It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: "We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?" They said: "Of course." My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.

And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents' savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn't see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn't interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.

It wasn't all romantic. I didn't have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends' rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:

Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn't have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can't capture, and I found it fascinating.

None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, its likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.

Again, you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

My second story is about love and loss.

I was lucky — I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation — the Macintosh — a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.

I really didn't know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down - that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me — I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.

I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.

During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple's current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.

I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.

My third story is about death.

When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn't even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor's code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you'd have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.

I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I'm fine now.

This was the closest I've been to facing death, and I hope its the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960's, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.

Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: "Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish." It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you.

Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.

Thank you all very much.

Stop every once in a while ...

A day passes by .. so does a week .. so does a month ... followed by a year

Little do we realize time is ticking by .. irrespective of what we are doing or what state of mind are we in.

Your Happy ..Time will tick .. Your sad .. Time will still tick... Your Confused ...Time definitely still tick

Considering you spend half your life sleeping ... that just leaves another half to be sad , happy or confused

Wouldn't one want to be happy for the most part if it was a perfect world ?

Well atleast i would for the most i can ...

The Only issue is people are so overwhelmed with emotions driven by their surrounding environment ..And get so caught up in their day to day life... They hardly get a chance to take a breather n step out of the box for a while to look at their lifes from a brids eye view..

Life is though and its difficult to get yourself out of the daily routine

Well You have Problems so do 5 Billion other people ...

But do stop every once in a while ... N seek the path to happiness ..

Life is too short to be confused .. n too precious to be sad

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Value has a Value only if its Value is Valued ...

An interesting story that i came across

A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a Rupee 500 note.
In the room of 200, he asked, "Who would like this Rupee 500 note?"
Hands started going up. He said, "I am going to give this note to one of you but first let me do this." He proceeded to crumple the note up.

He then asked, "Who still wants it?"
Still the hands were up in the air. Well," he replied, "What if I do this?" And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now all crumpled and dirty. "Now who still wants it?"
Still the hands went into the air.
"My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson.
No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did
not decrease in value. It was still worth Rupee 500/-.
Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way.
We feel as though we are worthless.
But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value.

You are special. Don't ever forget it! Never let yesterday's disappointments overshadow tomorrow's dreams.

"Character" an individuals safest bet ?

After 26 yrs of my life ...and Number of serious and casual relations i came to a realization which never struck me before.. An individuals Character is the safest long term bet you can have on them ...

I was heading back home from work and a old college buddy gave me a buzz .. Did'nt have anything better to do so figured i would catch up with him.

Sitting at a bar he was blowing his horns about casually dating a married woman at work.. I was not surprised but to bust his chops i just asked him...

Me : Hey How old are you now ?
Him : 25 Yrs
Me: Cool so i am sure you would be married in a few years .. have anything on your cards ?
Him : Maybe in a few years
Me : Hey you know there maybe a remote possibility a few years down the line when your married. You could have 2 Single guys sitting in this bar and discussing your wife ... lol
Him : STOP Don't you dare say another word on that ... i'll find myself a decent girl
Me : Ah
Me : So looks like it maybe arranged
Him : I guess it could be ...
Me : Hmmm...
Me: So a thought just occurred to me so your saying the current married chic you are dating is not a decent chic hence you are going out with her to have a good time .. But you would only marry a decent chic ?
Him : Correct
Me: Being the smart ass i am :) " Hey so is there a remote possibility that the decent chic you decide to marry suddenly has the realization that she has not explored life and decides to change her approach post you guys get married"

He Looked at me stunned.. With No answer

Me: So either ways you are screwd ;)

Anyways we ended that conversation ... i lit up a smoke .. as i took the first puff ...
It hit me maybe character of an individual is the safest long term bet

There is a Chinese saying " Its easier to change the course of a river or the shape of a mountain .. Then to change and Individuals Character... "

Individuals Change with time and keep changing till the end of their time ... There is no known constant from birth to death ..

Food for thought ?

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans

A Interesting thought .... By someone with wisdom derived over the years



It's been 18 years since I joined Volvo, a Swedish company. Working for them
has proven to be an interesting experience. Any project here takes 2 years
to be finalized, even if the idea is simple and brilliant. It's a rule.

Globalize processes have caused in us (all over the world) a general sense
of searching for immediate results. Therefore, we have come to posses a need
to see immediate results. This contrasts greatly with the slow movements of
the Swedish. They, on the other hand, debate, debate, debate, hold x
quantity of meetings and work with a slowdown scheme. At the end, this
always yields better results.

Said in another words:
1. Sweden is about the size of San Pablo, a state in Brazil.

2. Sweden has 2 million inhabitants.

3. Stockholm, has 500,000 people.

4. Volvo,Escania, Ericsson, Electrolux, Nokia are some of its renowned
companies.
Volvo supplies the NASA.

The first time I was in Sweden, one of my colleagues picked me up at the
hotel every morning. It was September, bit cold and snowy. We would arrive
early at the company and he would park far away from the entrance (2000
employees drive their car to work). The first day, I didn't say anything,
either the second or third. One morning I asked, "Do you have a fixed
parking space? I've noticed we park far from the entrance even when there
are no other cars in the lot." To which he replied,  "Since we're here early
we'll have time to walk, and whoever gets in late will be late and need a
place closer to the door. Don't you think?
Imagine my face.

Nowadays, there's a movement in Europe name Slow Food. This movement
establishes that people should eat and drink slowly, with enough time to
taste their food, spend time with the family, friends, without rushing. Slow
Food is against its counterpart: the spirit of Fast Food and what it stands
for as a lifestyle. Slow Food is the basis for a bigger movement called Slow
Europe, as mentioned by Business Week.

Basically, the movement questions the sense of "hurry" and "craziness"
generated by globalization, fueled by the desire of "having in quantity"
(life status) versus "having with quality", "life quality" or the "quality
of being". French people, even though they work 35 hours per week, are more
productive than Americans or British.

Germans have established 28.8 hour workweeks and have seen their
productivity been driven up by 20%. This slow attitude has brought forth the
US's attention, pupils of the fast and the "do it now!" This no-rush
attitude doesn't represent doing less or having a lower productivity. It
means working and doing things with greater quality, productivity,
perfection, with attention to detail and less stress. It means
reestablishing family values, friends, free and leisure time. Taking the
"now", present and concrete, versus the "global", undefined and anonymous.
It means taking humans' essential values, the simplicity of living.

It stands for a less coercive work environment, more happy, lighter and more
productive where humans enjoy doing what they know best how to do. It's time
to stop and think on how companies need to develop serious quality with
no-rush that will increase productivity and the quality of products and
services, without losing the essence of spirit.

In the movie, Scent of a Woman, there's a scene where Al Pacino asks a girl
to dance and she replies, "I can't, my boyfriend will be here any minute
now". To which Al responds, "A life is lived in an instant". Then they dance
to a tango.

Many of us live our lives running behind time, but we only reach it when we
die of a heart attack or in a car accident rushing to be on time. Others are
so anxious of living the future that they forget to live the present, which
is the only time that truly exists. We all have equal time throughout the
world. No one has more or less.

The difference lies in how each one of us does with our time. We need to
live each moment. As John Lennon said, "Life is what happens to you while
you're busy making other plans".

A mind is like a parachute ?

A mind is like a parachute.... It only works when its open :)

Give it a thought that line has a deep meaning behind it which can transform your life...

The day that line came to my notice a couple of years back .... it intrigued me. i looked back at all the decisions i made in life good or bad and came to a conclusion if maybe i looked at it with an open mind the outcome would be very different and i would be maybe in a different place ...anyways since i can't turn back time till some one with plenty of grey cells invents the time machine there is no point me regretting anything i did ... But i could adapt an open mind policy to make the best of life going ahead.

To my surprise i was alot more content with my decisions. So Content that never in life post that i needed to give a second look.

Individuals often make their decisions based on their experiences in life or perspective towards issues or maybe even a relation shared with an other individual ... At a point in my life i did too But ....

Doesn't that really cloud what one maybe looking at ? And influence them to sway in a direction which they shouldn't ?

An approach with an open mind really does change your life...


Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Grey Areas of Life

For the longest of times ... Ever since i have started exploring life. It only existing for me in 2 forms Black or White
Right or Wrong..... 12 Years of black n white sure does make life pretty boring :)

Then one fine day i met someone who's entire life seemed to be Grey. its funny i had never come across an individual with such a pattern ever.... It intrigued me as i grew closer to this grey individual..

As i stood there and observed over the months. This person had never differentiated between right or wrong black or white.. Always did what brought happiness and joy in each moment they lived.

One of the birth right of every individual is that he or she deserves to be happy in whatever way they choose to. Its an individuals sole choice irrespective of judgments made by other individuals in the society or the society as a whole

Under the general norm of the society we live in this individual would be considered an outlaw by all standards

As we grew closer day after day .. conversation after conversation i realized how wrong i had been all my life...
Life is not all black and white... Its Black White and Grey

And its ok to have a few grey patches here and there. Life is gift which needs to be lived to the full.. It cannot be lived by a rule book... Although there always have to be some underlying principles which surround your life...

What these principles are again an individual choice ..

The ability for an individual to accept see and realize there are grey areas in life ... is something most people don't come to terms with all their lifes ...However i was fortunate enough to be thought this lesson in life by a little lost child ...

Live on you little dreamer .. Live on .. so what if its grey ...

Peace
Timber Da Wolf

A thought may count ... But an effort matters

Individuals often explore themselves over the years. Learn Right from wrong based on their perspective , company and up bringing...

Not all of us often head on a sensible path to life in all areas. I made a virtual mess of a few areas myself but with over time realized and tried to repair the damage to the best i could...

However there are a couple of things in life which i realized over time and did nothing about either... Maybe one day it would lead to a downfall in life. Maybe one day it would bring to end something i have cherished for a while in my life. Maybe there are a few things which i held onto for too long even though i knew they were killing me deep inside.... and did end up taking their toll on me

Came to realize when i put my life on a table and observed ..

A thought may count .... But and effort is what brings change for the good

Timeber Da Wolf

Life a Jigsaw Puzzle in many ways ? But not totally true ?

I have been a little lazy not been penning down my wandering thoughts ... Its the first week of October and i am re visiting a though i had in August..

Ever try and solve a Jig Saw Puzzle ? Put it together piece by piece to come up with a picture
Don't you think life is such too ?

People often start putting themselves and their lifes together in their mid teens a piece at a time some take longer then the others .. some start quick think they have it all figured out but then get stuck at some point. i don't know if most of you would agree with me i think there is no end to this. People just keep putting things together till the end of their time.

well what do you know it i was stuck right here for a few moments figuring out my next line

Think about it the first relationship you ever had ended seemed like the end of the world. But then you put another piece to the puzzle and moved ahead which in return down the line lead to another.

Think about the job you were frustrated with and quit. Followed Your heart and put another piece together of your life.

A Jig Saw Puzzle isn't it ? Put one Piece together and another falls into place

Except this puzzle does'nt have a definite picture you are putting together or an end result you would get to see. Its Abstract art that every individual puts together as life passes by.

i am still trying to discover the art i have been painting for the past 26 yrs

Peace
TimberDaWolf

Human Defence Mechanism

The Human Defence Mechanism or in Other words the guard we keep up around us is a pretty interesting piece in each one of our life's.

It generally tends to shape itself from experiences we have had in our lifes and a matter of personal choice. Hard to imagine but every being on the face of this earth seems to have a different one.

Give it a thought Experience + Personal Choice

Bad Breakup - Bad Experience, One decides to never love again
Bad Breakup - Bad Experience, One Decides to move on and give it another shot
Bad Breakup - Bad Experience, One Decides to Move on and not make the same mistakes again
Bad Breakup - Bad Experience, One Decides to take relationships as a joke and just stick to flings


The Permutations and Combinations are limitless. However this is actually influencing many other aspects of ones life don't you think ?

Defences Going up and Coming up all around us everyday but only to the individuals who they relate to know about it.

Does This Mechanism influence your state of mind ?
Does it drive away something good which maybe entering your lives ?
Does it Protect One from Hurting themselves again ?
Does it Help you to stay happy ?

Well the answer i found was : Yes to all of them

Now i started pondering with the question how do i have the best of both worlds cause from what you see the mechanism although helps protect you could also be driving the good things of life away from one.

Ah the perfectionist me at work again :) (Many People i know hate this aspect of me)

I pondered with this situation for years before it struck me...

One can't really let down their defenses that would be stupid. But Only if applied a few more measures besides his or her defenses

a) Start anything in life with a clean slate (Relations, Work, Anything) with no relation to such events in your past.
b) Gave it time. Like one would give a plant water in expectation for it to bloom as a tree one day
c) Your Intuition followed by a keen eye.
d) Positive attitude to try if you fail once in this experiment.

Well i gave it a shot, And Guess what well i Failed :)

Put some thought into why i failed. Well my Intuition was wrong. i Tired changing some one with the above. Realized after many years the above would only allow one to accept or reject some one thru their defenses. Not change someones nature. There is a Chinese saying i read once.. its easier to change the shape of a mountain or course of a river then to change some ones character...

Still Pondering to Improve this theory . Give it a thought give it a shot should work for a select few who understand it. i am almost getting it to work


Peace
Timeber Da Wolf

Perspective

"Perspective" or in other words "Point of View" is a very commonly used word in the English Vocabulary.

We use it in our day to day life's Well even if we don't.... don't we all have a Perspective ?

Whats Wrong for one Could be the right for the Other ?

Hmmm.. Powerful word isn't it. Maybe it has Shaped humanity or Individual life's over the years

From what history has thought us ideals of many iconic people that we follow till date were based on their perspective towards life or situations.

From Relations with our loved ones we have learnt what might be acceptable by yourself could be something your better half or family might never accept.

Our Perspective in life is based events or experiences we have had. it might not always be the case for everyone..

Give it a thought "Perspective" After all does Shape your life ...


Peace
Timber Da Wolf

Life in Reverse Gear

Did you ever try to put life in reverse gear ?

Well Today I did. Felt pretty weird

Its Almost as if your running full steam ahead and something strikes you like a bolt of lightening that you left some thing way back in your distant past.

And the though of losing such a dear thing brings you to a grinding halt. Even if you do try and reverse you do realize that you can't

I tired to ponder with the question as to why if i could head ahead so fast ahead i couldn't reverse equally quick। Well and it struck me One does not really go anywhere in life. Just gets into a notion of ignoring the winds of change sweeping all around us.

The Notion i had of running full steam ahead was only a illusion while all this while i just stood there. Turning a blind eye towards the winds of change that were leaving no stone unturned

Learn from your past
Live your present
Look forward to your future.... Don't live in it

A life time will pass by before you realize it


Peace
Timber Da Wolf